Audhdistically Me
The book
Autism, ADHD and Me Your No Bullshit Guide to Life After Late Diagnosis
The guide I couldn't find when I was diagnosed. Honest stories from my own life, practical ways to understand how your brain works, and permission to stop fighting yourself and start building a life that fits.
The companion workbook, with all the exercises and prompts, is on Amazon too.
Why I wrote it
When I was diagnosed, my GP barely glanced at my report. I was married with kids, so apparently I was functioning fine, and I was told there was no support for someone like me.
I wasn't fine. I was drowning in burnout, sensory overload and masking so hard I didn't know who I was any more, while carrying most of the mental load for my whole family.
Neurodivergence hadn't been on my radar until about a year before. A few conversations sent me into research mode, and the more I read, the more I recognised myself. I printed out a checklist of autistic traits, highlighted trait after trait, and took it to my GP to ask for an assessment.
When the diagnoses came, everything made sense, and I had no idea what to do with it. I went looking for resources and almost everything near me was built for autistic boys or people with additional learning disabilities. I had answers, but I didn't have a plan.
So I wrote the resource I couldn't find. It isn't about fixing you, because you were never broken. It's about understanding how you're wired and building a life that genuinely fits you.
What's inside
Ten chapters, one at a time
- 1Introduction
- 2Unravelling internalised ableism
- 3Rediscovering your identity
- 4Self-love and acceptance
- 5Unmasking and burnout recovery
- 6Navigating relationships
- 7Sensory profile and emotional regulation
- 8Embracing your strengths
- 9Routines and productivity
- 10The reclaimed path: coming home to yourself
Along the way there are real-life stories, reflections, nervous system and somatic practices, and the WHY Method, the self-discovery framework I created for working through all of this with curiosity rather than criticism.
What readers say
I read all of this in one sitting - although I'm going to be referring back to it again and again for its practical exercises and the WHY Method!F., reader
This book was so insightful and deeply resonant, it felt like Jenny was speaking directly to me. The language is friendly and accessible, making complex ideas feel easy to grasp.A.L., reader
This book will take that weight off your shoulders that you have been carrying around for far too long. Whether you're diagnosed or undiagnosed this book will help you navigate and understand yourself deeper.G.M., reader
As someone who's been in a deep research mode for years, this booked pulled it all together - the sensory overwhelm, the perfectionism, pushing myself to the limit…S., audiobook listener